by
Richard L. Weaver II, Ph.D.
When
I lived in East Pakistan (now Bangladesh), I mentioned to friends my
plan to travel south to Chittagong, Bangladesh, and the woman to whom I
was speaking said, “I would never go there, it’s too dirty.” (Many
cities in that part of the world are notorious for sacred cows walking
free through the streets, pickpockets and beggars, trash and litter.)
When I showed a department-store clerk a 20-yuan note, (worth $3.05
U.S.) and told her I had just returned from Beijing, Southeast Asia, she
said, “Oh, I would never want to go there! . . . But I’m not much of a
traveler anyway.” This same trip came up in a discussion with close
friends, and they said, “We would never do something so risky.”
I have never been averse to new experiences, unique opportunities, and potentially exciting encounters.
It
needs to be said here that at no point in our many travels (and
excursions), have we ever encountered problems, troubles, difficulties
or any kind of risk. Our traveling — in all cases — has been smooth,
trouble-free, and easy. “Easy,” of course, is a relative word. (When I
showed my sister, who was visiting us at the time, my essay entitled,
“Cruise Number Ten: Bangkok to Beijing,” — published on
my blog
while she was visiting — she said she would never want to do all the
planning necessary to take such a trip. She did not think what we went
through could ever be called “easy.” The essay, “
Cruise Number Ten . . .,” discusses the detailed planning we engaged in planning for our Southeast Asia trip.)
Our
family (the family I grew up in and the family I am now part of), has
been around the world, and we have lived in exotic places (i.e.,
Pakistan, Hawaii, and Australia). I knowI how unique we are (speaking
of both families) with respect to most other people in the world. It is
precisely for this reason that some years ago I began writing about the
places we visited and the cruises and trips we took.
When
my wife heard I was planning to write a book that chronicled our
travels, she did not hesitate to say, “Who would be interested in
reading about your experiences?” It is an excellent question, and it
needs to be addressed. (The easy answer would have been to say, “I
would.” But, then, I have a slight bias.)
There are a
number of reasons why others might want to read about my experiences.
First, many people want to travel and, for a variety of reasons (e.g.,
time, money, or fear) cannot. They get their satisfaction vicariously,
and these essays provide vicarious experiences.
The
second reason others may be interested in reading my insights is that
when people travel — especially regular travelers — they love to compare
their experiences with those of others. Did they feel the same way we
did? Did they do something we should have done? Did they get out of
this experience just what we did? How did they like it?
A
third, more obvious, reason why others might want to read about my
travel experiences is to see if any of these places — exotic
destinations and more — might be of interest to them. The questions I
would be asking would be, Would I want to go there? Would I make these
same choices? How might I want to build on what this traveler did or
experienced — or repeat his experiences? (Others’ experiences often
provide us guidance, suggestions, and opportunities.)
A
fourth reason why others might want to read about my experiences is
because everything I write about — all of the experiences discussed in
this book — are accessible destinations. If others have the time,
money, and interest, these are places they can go and, for the same
reasons we were lured there, might even want to go.
One
thing that made putting this book (Exotic Destinations) together a
thrill for me is simply having an opportunity to relive these
experiences. That, too, has been one of the great joys of trying to
capture all these experiences in writing. At times it has been a bit
awkward to find the time to do the writing, but it has always paid off,
and I have never regretted it, and now I insist on the time and place to
do it.
My notes about my travels have become far more
specific and detailed than when I first began writing about them. Also,
I have become more focused. For example, many of the details I first
wrote about when we began cruising, are no longer important — e.g.,
crew-passenger ratios, the countries from where crew come, and various
cabin adornments. When I take an excursion in a foreign country now, I
am much more aware (than when I first began) about the culture, the
people, and the various local traditions, artifacts, and nuances. These
are the very things that bring a foreign culture alive and make the
encounter enriching and worth writing about.
Perhaps it
is just maturity or the accumulation of additional experiences or simply
my observational skills (improved through polishing and honing), or
maybe it is the continued improvement in my ability to take notes on and
write about these experiences, but I think I am continuing to improve,
learn, and grow. Having left my formal education behind many, many
years ago, I think I am capitalizing on the very things I was so fond of
teaching my students. It is not the education, per se, it is what you
do later with all of your education. It is the process of learning to
learn. All these experiences serve as my own personal educational
laboratory and have, thus, helped me add to my knowledge and education.
Another
factor that has contributed significantly to my growth is that I am now
more relaxed than ever. Previously, I was teaching and writing
textbooks. Now, with a single textbook in perpetual revision (
Communicating Effectively,
10e (McGraw-Hill, 2012), when I complete work on a new edition, I am
through (with the exception of collecting more information) for another
couple of years (on a three-year-turn-around time frame), and can truly
turn my attention to other things — including relaxation, travel, and
writing.
One thing that traveling does (until you can’t
do it anymore) is whet your appetite for more travel. It’s is almost
like trying to eat one potato chip — you can’t eat just one. You just
can’t travel to one destination without wanting to see more and more
diverse places! It is, indeed, contagious.
This book
(Exotic destinations) represents years and years of traveling. Nobody
could accomplish what is represented here in just one or two years. We
try now to make two major trips each year — one in the spring and one in
the fall. Because we have now seen so much and so many places, we have
decided (at least in part) to try to be more selective in the choices
we make. That is, we are now going to visit those places we have
enjoyed and would like to either see again or see more of. But, there
will be more essays, no doubt about that — since I have a blog that like
an appetite, needs fuel. I have a mind, too, that needs fuel, and
travel experiences are one type of fuel I truly seek and enjoy. I hope
you enjoy these experiences as much as I did — and as much as I liked
writing about them, too.
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