It was Vivian Green who said, “Life's not about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain.” Life presents storms; if we wait for one to pass, inevitably another lurks on the horizon or angrily stomps its way into our lives—not to be overlooked nor avoided. So many factors enter our lives uninvited and, for the most part, unwanted. Think about those in the midst of divorce, out-of-work, financially challenged, taking care of elderly or physically challenged family members, dealing with the death of a parent, child, or spouse, or in other similar traumatic circumstances. The number of potential factors, of course, is overwhelming. Any of them can put our lives on hold, arrest plans, or cause an uncontrollable tailspin, the likes of which we have not previously known. Meanwhile—while the tempest rants, raves, and bellows at our senses—we are at the mercy of its unyielding energy. Meanwhile, too, time ticks away. If we do not learn how to dance in the rain, there may be no time for dancing at all. This essay is not making a case for being carefree, flippant, or nonchalant during times of extreme stress; however, a case needs to be made for not shelving our freedoms, joys, and happiness when such times occur. There still needs to be time for us—for dancing in the rain. Plans can continue, and lives can and must go on—the storms will pass. At TeensHealth from Nemours, the author of the essay, “People React Emotionally and Physically,” writes in the first paragraph, “When coping with a death [or any traumatic circumstance], you may go through all kinds of emotions. You may be sad, worried, or scared. You might be shocked, unprepared, or confused. You might be feeling angry, cheated, relieved, guilty, exhausted, or just plain empty. Your emotions might be stronger or deeper than usual or mixed together in ways you've never experienced before.” Later in this same essay, the author writes, “No matter how you choose to grieve, there's no one right way to do it. The grieving process is a gradual one that lasts longer for some people than others. There may be times when you worry that you'll never enjoy life the same way again, but this is a natural reaction after a loss.” One important point in dealing with the storms that come into our lives is to be mentally and physically strong—learn to dance well before the storms—for it is only in this condition that one can expect to face and weather them effectively. When storms catch us already mentally and physically drained, the challenge can quickly become too much. Exercising, eating right, and getting sufficient sleep provides a strong foundation from which good decisions can be made and appropriate responses and reactions can be offered. Learning to dance in the rain means caring for yourself throughout a storm. There are a number of “understandings” that will assist in the “dance.” For example, realize that you are not being “singled out.” Such traumas (no matter how extreme) happen to everyone, and they are—unfortunately—part of life. To live is to suffer trauma. Do not isolate yourself. Family, friends, and neighbors offer support and encouragement. They are there to fortify a broken spirit, buoy up a grief-stricken heart, and shore up a battered mindset. Isolation is not good. It is the very thing that leads people to severe depressive episodes, and even worse, thoughts of suicide. Permit some cathartic release. Some people find release of their pent-up emotions through talking with others. Talk about your feelings; tell of your emotional connections; relate the story of what has happened to you. Another way to express yourself is through writing. Use your diary or create a daily log of your thoughts and feelings. Some, too, will write a story, article, song, essay, poem, or book. This may become a tribute, or it may simply be a way to find some closure to all that has happened. Do not drop out. Traumas can be so overwhelming they cause some to say, “Why go on at all?” “What difference does living make?” “Now there is no purpose in life.” Devastating should never be the same as destructive. We can be devastated by a traumatic event, but in no way should that be cause for us to drop out or destroy our life. The human spirit is amazingly resilient, and, although it is difficult to fathom it when in the midst of severe trauma, life can have meaning and joy again—if you have learned to dance before and during the storm. At the web site, Mothering Mother and More the essay there by Carol Dodell, “Can you Grieve too Much?” includes the following paragraph about learning to dance in the rain, “Some people can and need to go right back into their jobs and life after a tragedy. It makes them feel normal, safe, that life has some continuity and gives their life meaning. These are good reasons to keep on course, and if that’s what you need, what works for you, then don’t feel guilty or think you’re not showing the proper response of grief just because you can go on with you life.” At LegacyConnect, “How Long Is This Grieving Going to Last?” Dr. Elizabeth Harper Neeld writes, “That the amount of kairos time [‘the time within which personal life moves forward.’] it takes each of us to reach a place where the loss is integrated into our lives but does not dominate our lives is longer than ‘the person on the street’ might suggest. Many folks around us would like for the process to be shorter rather than longer because they are not comfortable with the whole experience of grieving. As a society, we have cultural practices that suggest grieving should be short. (Don’t, for instance, many government workers get three days off when they lose a family member?)” The quotation by Vivian Green, “Life's not about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain,” carries great significance and meaning. Those already dancing or preparing themselves to dance are likely to be those in the best position to weather storms. The storms will come. Whether liked, welcomed, or otherwise brought forth, they are part of existence. Those who understand, and take to heart, the meaning of Green’s aphorism will experience life’s pleasures even when ravaged by life’s tempestuous nature. ----- At extension (Ohio state University Extension), the essay there, “Loss and Grief—Activities to Help You Grieve,” adapted from GriefWorks, Sam Quick, Professor Emeritus, Human Development and Family Relations Specialist, Kentucky Cooperative Extension Service, offers twenty excellent practical suggestions that may assist in anyone’s journey of healing and growth.
At a web site labeled Grief and Loss there are three sections: 1) How to recognize the symptoms of Grief, 2) The Tasks of Grief that must be undertaken, and 3) The Stages of Grief. All are good. All offer excellent ideas and suggestions. ----- Copyright November, 2011, by And Then Some Publishing, LLC.
"I am learning all the time. My tombstone will be my diploma." --Eartha Kitt
"It's a great pity that things weren't so arranged that an empty head, like an empty stomach, wouldn't let its owner rest until he put something in it." --Olin Miller
Day #283 - Keep learning.
SMOERs: Self-Motivation, Optimism, Encouragement Rules! - Daily Reminders for Outstanding Living
An everyday guide full of quotations to uplift your spirits. These are two of the four motivational quotations for Day #283.
The first paragraph of the essay, "How long should you hold a grudge?," reads as follows: "Asked how long he holds a grudge, one fellow replied, 'Until hell freezes over.' Another said, it depends on two things: 1) the intent, and 2) the gravity of the situation. Yet another person said, 'If the person is an idiot, I simply consider the source and dismiss both the person and the comment or situation.' And the final person asked, said, 'I turn the other cheek.'”
Thursday's Essay Excerpt - from the last paragraph of the essay
"Now, all this information comes a little late for my father-in-law mentioned in the opening examples. There is no doubt he will take his grudges to the grave. But, that makes me wonder. He is 97-years-old! Perhaps holding grudges is the key to longevity."
It is helpful to know Altman’s credentials before reading this book. First, he is a psychotherapist, second, he is a former Buddhist monk, and third, he is an adjunct professor at Lewis and Clark College Graduate School and Portland State University. Why is it important to know this? Because, throughout the book he successfully and seamlessly blends these three areas of interest and expertise.
Altman tells effective stories, and he tells them well. The book is absolutely loaded with examples.
There are 44 chapters in this in 256 pages of text. That means that, on average, each chapter is less than six pages long. They read quickly. And, too, each chapter includes a simple lesson, activity, or tool that engages readers and gives them an exercise to experience or apply the idea on their own.
Chapter titles will give you an exact idea of the contents of this book. The first section, “The Mind Key,” includes 11 chapters. The second part, “The Body Key,” includes eleven chapters, “The Spirit Key,” includes eleven, and the fourth part, “The Relationship Key,” includes the final eleven.
Because I have a special interest in relationships (I write about them on a regular basis, and I had a college textbook, UNDERSTANDING INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION, that went through 7 editions), let me give you the chapter names in this part: Give Others Your Full Presence, Embrace Silence and Deep Listening, Share Loving-Kindness with Others, Be Genuine and Real, Seek Out Happy and Meaningful Connections, Untie the Knots of Emotional Entanglement, Light Another’s Candle, Attune Yourself to Others, Offer Up Your Nonjudgment and Joy, Cultivate Kind Speech, and Mind Your Relationships. (How can anyone argue against these ideas when it comes to cultivating successful relationships?)
In her review of the book at Amazon.com, I thought Marilyn Dalrymple of Lancaster, California, made a particularly good point. She said the book “is a gentle, but serious reminder that most of us need to take care of ourselves and be concerned and caring toward others.” I love her use of the word “gentle” for not only is it an accurate reflection of Altman’s approach, it is the feeling you acquire as he explains the idea of each chapter, offers examples to clearly define and demonstrate the idea, and then provides the “gentle” guideline readers can use to obtain (or at the least experience) the idea on their own.
Edgar E. Willis took part in Honor Flight on October 5, 2011. Honor Flight Network is a non-profit organization created solely to honor America’s veterans for all their sacrifices. They transport our heroes to Washington, D.C. to visit and reflect at their memorials.
Three generations of his family watched last Wednesday as Mr. Willis and 77 other World War II veterans returned to Toledo, Ohio after spending the day in Washington D.C., touring the memorials and then visiting Arlington National Cemetery on a trip paid for by Honor Flight of Northwest Ohio.
Besides taking part in Honor Flight, at 96, Edgar wrote a memoir about his World War II experience, Civilian in an Ill-fitting Uniform. This memoir does not proceed chronologically but details how a civilian converted into a naval officer reacted to navy life. He found that the first captain of the USS Alaska was a rank incompetent. The second, who commanded the USS Alaska during the battles of Iwo Jima and Okinawa, performed his duties brilliantly. Further, the author found that the navy was governed by some rules that can be described as quaint or illogical. The Alaska suffered only one wartime casualty, but the author was in close proximity to where 300 ships were sunk and thousands of young Americans lost their lives.
Of all of the wars in recent memory, it was World War II that truly threatened our very existence as a nation—and as a culturally diverse, free society. Now, with over one thousand World War II veterans dying each day, our time to express our thanks to these brave men and women is running out.
When I instructed students in how to prepare for job interviews, I told them to turn a negative into a desired positive. For example, when asked the question (as interviewees often are), what would you say is your biggest negative trait? I told them to use their impatience positively. That is, interviewees could say, “I am an impatient person. I have trouble waiting in line. I have difficulty waiting for results to come in. I don’t like wasting time. I prefer solving a problem myself rather than waiting for it to be solved by others.” In our society today, instant results are preferred simply because they are available. The advertisers for Internet connections speak of the speed of their servers so users can get instant access and instant search results. People shouldn’t have to wait for anything. Not only do the media promote instant access, but expedited responses, prompt solutions, and immediate gratification are not just slogans but guiding principles. Nobody wants delay of any kind, and time is always at a premium. “Patience,” however, according to the website Essential Life Skills.net “is the ability to tolerate waiting, delay, or frustration without becoming agitated or upset. It's the ability to be able to control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficulties. It comes from the Latin word pati which means to suffer, to endure, to bear,” according to an essay on patience, “Patience & Tips On How to Develop It.” We know what it is, but that doesn’t make waiting any easier! The problem is a simple one and it is one that some young people today may not realize. Anything you desire that is worthwhile or important doesn’t take place instantly. Examples, of course, are endless. Losing weight, developing a good body, becoming a doctor, lawyer, engineer, or other professional, getting to be a top athlete, becoming an outstanding musician or artist, overcoming losses or tragedies, and achieving most goals require time, dedication, and effort. What many people don’t understand when they can’t get what they want instantly are the many benefits of patience. What I had to explain to my students — especially when it came to their college education — was that the time spent in college would help them develop good study skills, allow knowledge and understanding of their world, provide greater understanding of their life choices, develop important people connections, and make them better human beings and citizens. What I was selling, in a nutshell, was patience: the dedication, time, and effort devoted to their college education would have rewards, but all of them required patience to obtain them. At the website referred to above, Essential Life Skills.net, the author of the essay lists the following benefits of patience: It: “reduces stress levels and makes you a happier, healthier person . . . results in better decision-making . . . helps develop understanding, empathy and compassion [and] . . . helps you understand and appreciate the process of growth.” Admittedly, becoming a more patient person — whether you know, appreciate, or want any of its benefits — is not easy. This is especially true in a society where a message can be sent instantly to almost any place in the world, where one can obtain credit instantly, and where the virtues of immediacy are proliferated daily via any of the media. To settle for patience goes against the perceived majority viewpoint, against what friends and family seem to demand, against the standard seemingly promoted in business and industry and, as a result, against the internalized notion that immediate results can be achieved. Why would anyone need or desire patience? Rather than discuss the steps for becoming more patient, let me refer readers to a website that includes eleven. At wikiHow, in an essay, “How to be patient,” attributed to more than 25 different contributors, the steps include: 1) keeping a journal, 2) figuring out why you are in such a hurry, 3) pinpointing the triggers that influence why you lose your patience, 4) overcoming bouts of impatience, 5) looking for patterns, 6) letting go if you can’t do anything about the impatience trigger, 7) reminding yourself that things take time, 8) expect the unexpected, 9) give yourself a break, 10) remember what matters, and 11) remember that you will eventually get what you want. Each of these steps is discussed in greater detail at the website, and the explanations are valid and to the point. In my life, I had a number of examples (during my education) where I discovered patience had virtues. When I first took swimming lessons when I was in third grade in Chapel Hill, NC, I had the desire to become much better, and I knew I had a lot to learn — even at that early age. So, I continued taking lessons at every opportunity, growing, developing, and changing. When available, I took Junior Lifesaving, Senior Lifesaving, Water Safety Instructor, and even a Lifeguard Instructor Course. In high school I joined the swim team, and I swam competitively for several years. When I realized that writing was going to be important to me no matter what career I pursued, I enrolled in an Advanced English course in high school to be exposed to one of the best English teachers there: Mr. Granville. I knew one course would be insufficient, but I had the patience to know that more would be necessary. Not only did Mr. Granville inspire me, I went on to make English a minor in college so that if I ended up teaching speech in high school (I became certified at the high school level), I could also teach English at that level. I even took a couple of additional English courses during pursuit of my master’s degree. Getting a complete education — becoming truly knowledgeable in ANY field — requires a great deal of patience, just as developing talent, ability, prowess, or success in any endeavor. Of the eleven steps above for achieving patience, I have found that number seven, “reminding yourself that things take time,” is (at least for me) the most important one. I am, indeed, an impatient person, and I am often giving myself internal messages to calm me down: “I do not need to be in a hurry,” “I have the time,” “Everyone does not operate at the same speed as I do,” and Cato the Elder’s phrase, “Patience is the greatest of all virtues.” It also helps to know, as Saint Augustine said, “Patience is the companion of wisdom.” - - - - - - - - - At Self Help Zone there is a wonderful, brief essay, “The Importance Of Having Patience In Our Everyday Lives” that end saying, “If this sounds familiar and it may be what you experience you should really concentrate on being a little more accepting of other people.”
Dr. Beverly Smallwood, at the Personal Development website, has an essay, “How to become more patient," in which she offers readers a short justification for considering patience important and then five strategies for developing it: . 1) Become more realistic in your expectations. Expect and plan for delays, complications, and setbacks. 2. View setbacks as temporary. 3. Keep the mentality of the problem solver, not the victim. 4. Reject bitterness, and, 5. Remember your successes in other difficult situations. - - - - - - Copyright November, 2011, by And Then Some Publishing, L.L.C.
"The surest sign that intelligent life exists elsewhere in the universe is that it has never tried to contact us." --Bill Watterson
Day #282 - Don't take yourself too seriously.
SMOERs: Self-Motivation, Optimism, Encouragement Rules! - Daily Reminders for Outstanding Living
An everyday guide full of quotations to uplift your spirits. This is one of seven motivational quotations for Day #282.
This book is so new that Amazon has not added the front cover yet!
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The first paragraph of the essay, "The need for patience," reads as follows: "When I instructed students in how to prepare for job interviews, I told them to turn a negative into a desired positive. For example, when asked the question (as interviewees often are), what would you say is your biggest negative trait? I told them to use their impatience positively. That is, interviewees could say, 'I am an impatient person. I have trouble waiting in line. I have difficulty waiting for results to come in. I don’t like wasting time. I prefer solving a problem myself rather than waiting for it to be solved by others.'”
Thursday's Essay Excerpt - from the last paragraph of the essay
"Of the eleven steps above for achieving patience, I have found that number seven, “reminding yourself that things take time,” is (at least for me) the most important one. I am, indeed, an impatient person, and I am often giving myself internal messages to calm me down: 'I do not need to be in a hurry,' 'I have the time,' 'Everyone does not operate at the same speed as I do,' and Cato the Elder’s phrase, 'Patience is the greatest of all virtues.' It also helps to know, as Saint Augustine said, 'Patience is the companion of wisdom.'"
This is an absolutely fascinating book. I cannot tell you how much I enjoyed it. I loved the stories, I loved the experiments, I loved the practical nature of the entire book and how Ariely applies all of the information to our lives whether it be at work, in relationships, or simply everyday existence.
Here is an example of how Ariely relates stories or experiments to readers’ lives: “The moral of the story?” he writes. “You may think that taking a break during an irritating or boring experience will be good for you, but a break actually decreases your ability to adapt, making the experience seem worse when you have to return to it. When cleaning your house or doing your taxes, the trick is to stick with it until you are done” (p. 179).
His experience with “Public Speaking 101" (pp. 42-49), of course, caught my attention. Ariely is so good at telling stories. The details he provides allow readers to imagine the situations he describes accurately, but not only that, it puts readers into those situations with all of the attendant emotions and reactions.
What I found particularly interesting was the build-up Ariely offered for each of his experiments. If you have ever wondered where the motivation or stimulation for behavioral science experiments come from, reading this book will be especially enlightening.
Also, delightful and evident on almost every page of the book, is Ariely’s engaging and surprising sense of humor. If you ever think that university professors — especially ones like Ariely who not only have two Ph.D’s, but are obviously well-versed and well-practiced in research methodology and approaches — are sedate, staid, formal, stuffy, and conventional (devoid of any sense of humor!), then you will not only be pleasantly surprised by this book, you may even be astonished. On page 61, Ariely puts you (the reader) in the “character” of an adult male albino rat in a cage. He gives you all the rat language and rat feelings to help you identify with it: “You accidentally press the bar, and immediately a pellet of food is released. Wonderful! You press the bar again. Oh joy!—another pellet comes out. . . .” In the next paragraph he says, “You wander around the cage, cursing under your rat breath, and go over to the tin cup. ‘Oh my!’ you say to yourself. ‘It’s full of pellets! Free food!’” (You get the point.).
The book is written for anyone and everyone. It is highly readable! There are few technical words, no erudite vocabulary, and it is incredibly engaging. You just can’t put it down. (That’s because the stories and illustrations are so captivating!) “I truly enjoy the research I do,” Ariely writes, “I think it’s fun. I’m excited to tell you, dear reader, about how I have spent the last twenty years of my life. I’m almost sure my mother will read this boo, and I’m hoping that at least a few others will as well” (p. 64).
I loved his personal examples, like putting together the IKEA furniture designed for his toy room (pp. 83-84). His example of what happened with his small Audi (pp. 131-135) was delightful, and it was truly an illustration with which all readers could identify. Also, once again, it was a story that led to an experiment “to measure the extent of vengeful behavior” (p. 135).
Just an aside regarding Ariely’s Audi experience, here he writes about it in retrospect on page 153: “Other than my near brush with death on the highway, I’d say that my experience with Audi was overall beneficial. I got to reflect on the phenomenon of revenge, do a few experiments, share my perspective in print, and write this chapter.” These sentences give you a good sample of his writing style, his directness in talking to readers, and his honesty.
Speaking of his use of personal examples, how he became an academic (because I am, too, an academic) is most interesting. It was a choice, incidentally, that happened slowly over time as he “began engaging in more and more academic pursuits” (p. 184). Ariely uses this experience as an example of how he adapted to a powerful, painful, and prolonged injury (which he fully explains toward the beginning of the book).
This really is an outstanding book that will capture your attention, tune your senses to a number of aspects of human behavior, and inform, enlighten, and entertain you along the way. If it hasn’t been clear in this review, I truly loved the book and Ariely’s writing style.
My colleague and I were eating our lunch in our cafeteria when we overheard one of the administrative assistants talking about the sunburn she got on her weekend drive to the shore.
She drove down in a convertible, but "didn't think she'd get sunburned because the car was moving."
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When I was typing into my computer the handwritten essays I wrote on our Southeast Asia cruise, the experience brought back all the wonderful memories of our trip. To reinforce and accentuate the notes I took, my wife received hard copies of the 400 digital pictures she took, and combined with my notes, the brochures, and ship information, we have a fairly complete representation of our trip. I haven’t always kept notes about my daily activities, but I have written in a diary for most of my life. I don’t remember when, why, or how I received my first one, but I know it was the five-year kind, and it had little space to write much on each day, but I remember enjoying the process of keeping track of major events. Even though you may think a person may not keep a diary, I think it makes a great present because it opens the invitation. It offers the recipient a choice to use it or not. It makes it available whereas, otherwise, it would not be. (A young person generally does not go out and buy a diary or journal on his or her own.) Just an aside here: When I speak on “writing” before 5th-grade classes, I give each student in the class a journal. I explain its value, give them topics to write about, and encourage them to begin writing at once. What I have learned about keeping a diary or journal is the topic of this essay. The benefits include more than simply going back to find out on which day a certain event took place, whether or not we saw a particular movie (I save the movie receipts in the journal), or the number of a campsite we liked in a park we plan to visit a second time. If these were the only reasons — and I DO use my journal for these purposes — I probably wouldn’t continue the practice. One of the most important benefits from keeping a journal is the reflecting and understanding it brings. Not every day, but on many days! It gives me time not just to go over a day’s events — which I write down — but time to reflect, evaluate, analyze, and judge the events and my reactions to them. It is like a mental exercise — healthy, beneficial, and satisfying. Reflection and understanding are healthy for these processes allow me to examine my behavior: how could I do “this” better? How could I do this differently? or, in many of my own cases, How could I do this more efficiently? So often, for example, when I’m keeping score on my accomplishments, I think about how much more I could have done had I not stopped working so early, or had I found a solution to a problem much earlier, or had I known at the start of a day what I knew at the end of a day. So much of life is repetitious, and I always hope that when I face the same situation a second or third time, I can improve or, to say it a bit differently, that I can bring to the event or situation, a better me. That is what the “and then some” philosophy is all about: becoming a better me. It’s not just a great thought, but it is, indeed, a cause for reflection and increased understanding. The second major benefit of writing a journal (in addition to reflecting and understanding), is motivation. Life, in addition to being repetitious, is about “doing,” or “getting things done.” There are so many things to do and so little time; thus, life becomes a matter of making choices. The chance to review my accomplishments in my journal is an opportunity to assess my energy level regarding the next day or the next week. For me, any list of things accomplished is an expression of personal energy and motivation. I don’t often think about it, but I become motivated by accomplishment. And accomplishments, like catalysts, stimulate even more accomplishments. They are like a sign post that points the way toward greater commitment and engagement. A third reason why writing in a diary or journal is beneficial has to do with emotions. I become emotionally tied to the accomplishments and choices I make. For example, when I have completed a task (like writing this essay, for example), I love to go back and look at what I’ve done — to enjoy it, take pleasure in it, and derive some emotional satisfaction from it. When I re-read and edit what I write, it is a truly gratifying and fulfilling time. A fourth benefit I derive from keeping a journal has to do with tracking progress. I am always interested in moving forward, striving to improve, seeking enlightenment, and positively pushing my creativity and innovation in new and rewarding directions. I have always believed that that is what life should be about. The “good life” is not for slackers! Mine is a dynamic, bold, and ambitious attitude. In the tenth edition of my textbook Communicating Effectively (McGraw-Hill, 2012), I incorporated a new section entitled “Active Open-Mindedness” (AOM) specifically designed to get readers to think more deeply, reflect on what they are reading, and make thoughtful choices. These sections have been constructed with my goal in mind: getting readers to strive to improve, seek enlightenment, and positively push their creativity and innovation in new and rewarding directions. (Whether these sections succeed in satisfying my intentions for including them, I will only know when the tenth edition is reviewed by users.) There is a fifth benefit to keeping a journal that I suspect may satisfy anyone reading this essay. It is a form of mental activity that keeps me fresh and active. I like the vibrancy and newness of living every day, and I like to capture that new sense of energy on paper for it serves to replenish and revitalize my spirits. The sixth and final benefit for keeping a journal is that it holds me responsible. These are MY accomplishments, MY achievements, and MY efforts. Because they are MY acts, I take responsibility for MY talent, MY ability, MY competence, and MY aptitude. It makes it all specific and distinct. It lays it out in black-and-white. I can see it and respond to it. Whether it is reflecting and understanding, motivation, an emotional outlet, tracking progress, a mental activity, responsibility, or all of these combined, I find writing a journal to be enormously satisfying — a major contribution to my health and well-being — and, for those who have never tried it, I highly recommend it. - - - - - - - At Associated Content the essay there, “The Benefits of Journal Writing,” lists several benefits not mentioned in my essay: 1) Reducing Stress, 2) Increasing Cognitive Functioning, 3) Increasing Creativity and Writing Skills, and 4) Stimulating Self-growth. The author adds 5) Telling Your Own Story.
Melissa Donovan, at the website Writing Forward, has an essay, The Benefits of Journal Writing,” in which she extolls the virtues of journal writing for writers and artists. She begins her terrific essay saying, “Do all writers keep journals? Of course not. But most of us have kept journals at some point and for most of us, journal writing has been instrumental in generating ideas, developing a strong voice, and learning how to flesh thoughts out onto the page.” - - - - - - - - Copyright November, 2011, by And Then Some Publishing, L.L.C.
"Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don't recognize them." --Ann Landers
Day #281 - Seize opportunities when they occur.
SMOERs: Self-Motivation, Optimism, Encouragement Rules! - Daily Reminders for Outstanding Living
An everyday guide full of quotations to uplift your spirits. This is one of ten motivational quotations for Day #281.
The first paragraph of the essay, "The value of the journal," reads as follows: "When I was typing into my computer the handwritten essays I wrote on our Southeast Asia cruise, the experience brought back all the wonderful memories of our trip. To reinforce and accentuate the notes I took, my wife received hard copies of the 400 digital pictures she took, and combined with my notes, the brochures, and ship information, we have a fairly complete representation of our trip."
Thursday's Essay Excerpt - from the last paragraph of the essay
"Whether it is reflecting and understanding, motivation, an emotional outlet, tracking progress, a mental activity, responsibility, or all of these combined, I find writing a journal to be enormously satisfying — a major contribution to my health and well-being — and, for those who have never tried it, I highly recommend it."
