Thursday, November 29, 2007

Six time-tested ways dealing with fear of public speaking

by Richard L. Weaver II

She rose from her seat slowly, not knowing whether or not her legs would support her body. She moved to the lectern with her head down so she would not be distracted from her concentration on the first words she wanted to say. Her muscles were tense; her heart was beating five times faster than normal; and she had butterflies in her stomach. When she reached the lectern, she knew she couldn’t pick up her notes because her hands were trembling. She waited a moment to speak so she could gather more saliva and allow her shaking knees to settle down. This wasn’t her first public speech; it happened every time she had to give one.


Nobody doubts that next to snakes people fear public speaking the most. Fear of public speaking ranks higher than a fear of heights, being closed in small spaces, spiders and insects, needles and getting shots, mice, and flying on airplanes. Anxiety is triggered by stress, and some people are more vulnerable than others, but it is the same process no matter what you fear. Experiencing fear is universal, and fear of speaking in public is nearly universal.


Our bodies react to anxiety in different ways, however, the most obvious signs include tense muscles, trembling, churning stomach, nausea, diarrhea, headache, backache, heart palpitations, numbness, “pins and needles” in arms, hands, or legs, sweating or flushing, and dry mouth.


Avoiding things that make you anxious is only a temporary solution, and it will make you worry about what will happen next time. Also, every time you avoid something, it is harder the next time you try it. Avoidance, too, sets you on a pattern of avoiding more and more things. For some people, just the thought of having to give a public speech can trigger an adrenaline surge that quickens your pulse, raises your blood pressure, and kick-starts your anxiety. Just reading the opening scenario to this essay may be enough to cause some people to tremble or shake.


If it will help you cope with anxiety, remember these four things: First, even experienced public speakers get nervous before a presentation. Second, nerves do not need to be your enemy. Third, no matter how nervous you are, you are probably the only one who knows it. And, fourth, as long as you act like you are confident and play the role of a secure and knowledgeable speaker, you will be in command of the public-speaking situation.


There are six time-tested ways for dealing with nervousness. Remember, throughout this discussion, that some nervousness can be helpful. It produces energy, stimulates motivation, fires enthusiasm, and spurs animation. For many public speakers, a little nervousness empowers them to be inspiring, lively, even fascinating.


The first time-tested way for dealing with nervousness is to be prepared. If you prepare your speeches so thoroughly and so carefully that you cannot help but be successful, you will have taken the first giant step toward dealing with nervousness. I have never heard of a speaker being too prepared. If you begin your preparation early—as early as you can—you will be able to continually work with your ideas in your mind and change information as you think of new ideas or new ways of saying things. Also, early preparation gives you time to hone, polish, and perfect.


The second time-tested way for dealing with nervousness is to be positive. The best way to be positive is to stay engaged in constructive, practical, useful, and productive work. When you give your mind time to worry or to dredge up negative thoughts and ideas, it will fill the available time and then some. If you are speaking on a topic you care about, and if you discover information you want to share, you are more likely to have an optimistic, confident, and upbeat frame of mind. Start by believing you can give a successful speech.


Visualization is closely related to being positive, and it is commonly used by musicians, athletes, and actors. Picture yourself walking up to the lectern, having complete control over your behavior, delivering a forceful, effective talk, to a supportive, approving, responsive, and sympathetic audience. Repeat this process of visualization over and over.

The fourth time-tested way for dealing with nervousness is anticipation. First, anticipate some nervousness. It is common, but it can serve as a positive, contributing feature. Second, anticipate role playing. One of the best ways for countering any nervousness is to role play—just like a stage actor—coolness, calmness, and confidence. If you look like you re in charge and in control, your listeners will believe it. Third, anticipate something less than perfection. There is no such thing as a perfect speech. Remember, your audience will not know what you plan to say, only what you actually say. Thus, if you make an error, lose your place, or forget to say something, anticipate continuing your speech as if nothing happened.


Focus is the fifth time-tested way for dealing with nervousness. One problem that increases nervousness is when speakers focus on themselves rather than on their listeners or on their message. Worrying about yourself and your image—“Will my listeners like me?”—is vanity, and it is vanity of the worst sort. Worst sort? Yes, because to focus on yourself puts you above both your audience and your message. The entire process of speech preparation and delivery should be audience centered, so to suddenly shift the focus from them to yourself, not only demeans but discounts your prior preparation. Focus on audience-centered and message-related thoughts such as, “I have an important topic that will interest my listeners and hold their attention, and I have information that will be both useful and valuable for them.”


The final time-tested way for dealing with nervousness is experience, and there is no substitute for experience. Public speaking courses and organizations such as Toastmaster’s serve a valuable function—first steps in gaining experience. Those truly interested in becoming effective public speakers must take advantage of the opportunities in clubs and organizations, churches and family gatherings, weddings and bar/bat mitzvahs, and in work situations as well.


As public speaking experiences continue, your fears about public speaking will recede until they are replaced by the healthy nervousness that empowers you not only to do well, but to seek even more such opportunities. You are likely to find, from these experiences, that you will look forward to public speeches with interest, eagerness, and passion. It is at that very point when all your butterflies will be flying in formation!




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And Then Some Saturday Essay - December 1, 2007

Six time-tested ways dealing with fear of public speaking

by Richard L. Weaver II


Excerpt:
There are six time-tested ways for dealing with nervousness. Remember, throughout this discussion, that some nervousness can be helpful. It produces energy, stimulates motivation, fires enthusiasm, and spurs animation. For many public speakers, a little nervousness empowers them to be inspiring, lively, even fascinating.

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Saturday, November 24, 2007

An attitude of gratitude And Then Some

by Richard L. Weaver II

In 1907 the physician and endocrinologist and world’s leading authority on stress and emotional and physical responses to stress, Hans Selye — “the Einstein of medicine” — said, “Among all emotions, there is one which, more than any other, accounts for the presence or absence of stress in human relations: that is the feeling of gratitude.” Striving for others’ gratitude served as Selye’s guiding philosophy of life, and he believed it was the ultimate aim of existence.

The information in this essay comes from the book, "Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Ma
ke You Happier" (Houghton Mifflin, 2007), in which professor Robert Emmons, from the University of California, at Davis, shows that a systematic cultivation of the underexamined emotion can measurably change people’s lives. I have borrowed from Emmons’ work, and I use a minimum of quotation marks for the ease of reading.

There are three focal points in this essay. I examine the advantages of living a life of gratitude. I list some of the obstacles to maintaining an attitude of gratitude. Finally, I discuss strategies for overcoming the obstacles and obtaining an attitude of gratitude And Then Some.

According to Emmons, “gratefulness is a knowing awareness that we are the recipients of goodness. In gratitude we remember the contributions that others have made for the sake of our well-being” (p. 6). You cannot be grateful without being thoughtful; thus, “gratitude requires contemplation and reflection.” Alt
hough Thanksgiving is an appropriate time to be grateful; it can and should be expressed everyday of our lives throughout our lives.

There are many advantages to living a life of gratitude. Perhaps the most universal advantage is that it is one of the building blocks of a civil and humane society. On a personal level, there are emotional, physical, and interpersonal benefits. Emotionally, people who live lives full of gratitude, feel better about their lives as a whole, are more optimistic about their future, and report feeling grateful, joyful, and enthusiastic. The practice of gratitude protects people from the destructive impulses of envy, resentment, greed, and bitterness.

Physically, people who live a life of gratitud
e exercise more regularly, show increased resilience in the face of trauma-induced stress, report fewer illness symptoms, recover more quickly from illness, and benefit from greater physical health.

In addition to emotional and physical benefits, there are interpersonal benefits as well. A life of gratitude leads to increased feelings of connectedness, improved relationships, and even altruism. In experiencing gratitude, people feel more loving and forgiving, and gratitude maximizes the enjoyment of others and our lives. By elevating, energizing, inspiring, and transforming lives, it provides life with meaning for without it, it can be lonely, depressing, and impoverished.
There are numerous obstacles to living a life of gratitude. The first is simply that we don’t think about it very often. Clearly, it flies below our radar screen. Second, as Americans we are prone to laziness and inactivity, and according to Emmons, “Far from being a warm, fuzzy sentiment, gratitude is morally and intellectually demanding” (p. 17). There can be little wonder why it seldom operates within our range of vision.

In addition to not thinking about it and our laziness and inactivity, Emmons claims there are “monumental forces that undermine gratitude” (p. 155). He lists five. The first is “the negativity bias.” Often it is easy to ignore your blessings or even complain about them. Psychologists have identified a natural tendency
of the mind to perceive an input as negative — meaning that incoming thoughts and emotions are more likely to be unpleasant than pleasant. What this means in operational terms is that being a grouch, for some, comes naturally.

Emmons’ second obstacle is “the self-s
ufficiency illusion.” You do not want to admit or acknowledge how much you need others. Being indebted to others is uncomfortable, and you would rather believe that your good fortunes are your own doing although losses and sufferings are not your fault.

His third obstacle is “the emotional expression reluctance.” This obstacle applies more to men than women, however, our culture emphasizes the containment of emotional expression. There are perceived negative consequences that inhibit people from expressing their feelings.

Emmons’ fourth obstacle is “the comparison bias.” You constantly evaluate situations, events, other people, and yourself against standards of one type or another. When you look around and see students with harder bodies, coworkers with larger retirement portfolios, relatives whose children are more grateful, n
eighbors whose SUVs are larger, you feel resentment and envy, not gratitude. It encourages a focus on what you don’t have, not on what you do.

His fifth and final obstacle is “the perception of victimhood.” When you think of yourself as damaged goods — victimized at the hands of others (parents, spouses, coworkers, or society) — your tendency to blame them can be a strong resistance against gratitude.

Despite the many obstacles, however, there are a variety of strategies that will help obtain an attitude of gratitude And Then Some. Here are nine. The first is to keep a daily diary of positive, uplifting experiences. Gratefulness on a daily basis is related to higher levels of optimism and self-esteem. The second is simply reminding yourself to maintain a grateful attitude. The third is to practice gratefulness when good things happen because if “one is not grateful before challenges arrive, it is going to be
more difficult (though not impossible) to summon up gratitude after they hit” (p. 181). The fourth is to view existence as a gift. Then “gratefulness is an attitude underlying successful functioning over the life course” (p. 182). Along with viewing existence as a gift, you need to be grateful for good health and your ability to touch, see, smell, taste, and hear.

Here are the remaining four strategies. The sixth is to remember the bad—your sorrows, losses, sadness, and trauma—along with remembering where you are now and how far you’ve come. Remind yourself of how much worse life might be than it is. The seventh strategy is to leave yourself visual reminders to be grateful—notes on the refrigerator or on your bathroom mirror. The eighth strategy is to use the language of gratefulness—gifts, givers, blessings, fortune, fortunate, and abundance rather than deprivation, deservingness, regrets, lack, need, scarcity, and loss. A ninth strategy is to play the role of a grateful person. When you go through the motions, gratitude itself will be trigger
ed. If you do it, the true feeling of gratefulness will emerge.

Whether it is Thanksgiving or any other time during the year, there are obstacles to obtaining a life of gratitude. The advantages of gratefulness, however, should make it worthwhile to put the strategies for promoting an attitude of gratitude into immediate use. These strategies will provide an attitude of gratitude And Then Some.





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Thursday, November 22, 2007

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Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Thanksgiving offers us many ways to have silly fun with the And Then Some philosophy. Indulgence in all kinds food from the standard turkey and stuffing, all the way to grandma's mince meat pie. Indulgence in the surroundings of family, friends, and children running around our feet. Indulgence in sports with plenty of football and basketball to consume as we fall away into a comatose state.

Is this And Then Some? Yes, it's Thanksgiving. A day where And Then Some everything is not only assumed, but expected. Whether it is food, family, friends, sports, one of these, or all of them... eat, hug someone, and smile because on Thanksgiving, everything is about And Then Some fun!



And Then Some Saturday Essay - November 24, 2007

An attitude of gratitude And Then Some

by Richard L. Weaver II

Excerpt:
Whether it is Thanksgiving or any other time during the year, there are obstacles to obtaining a life of gratitude. The advantages of gratefulness, however, should make it worthwhile to put the strategies for promoting an attitude of gratitude into immediate use. These strategies will provide an attitude of gratitude And Then Some.


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Saturday, November 17, 2007

A weekend with the grandkids And Then Some...

by Richard L. Weaver II

When my wife first called to check on the availability of the cabin, the word from Mohican Adventures was for her to call back the next day to see if the cabin was being rented the night before our arrival. If not, it would be available for us as early as noon rather than 5:00 p.m. Its availability allowed us to leave at 10 a.m., rather than 2:30 p.m., and gave us an appropriate start for a weekend at the cabin And Then Some.

There were 8 of us arriving early, and after unpacking, we played numerous games of Texas Horseshoes (Corn Hole), munched on popcorn, relaxed to music, read the day’s paper, and some began a 500-piece 3-D puzzle.

When the second round of occupants arrived (my daughter, her husband, and four kids) from Columbus, the noise level and excitement increased dramatically. Food was prepared (tacos), and everyone gathered around the cabin table (which seated 14) and consumed chicken tacos with all the trimmings.

For our annual family retreats, planning for the food is conducted weeks in advance, and each family is responsible for one of the meals. Following tacos on Friday night, we all danced to “party time” music: “Celebration Time,” the “Bunny Hop,” the “Macarena,” the “Electric Slide,” the “Hokey Pokey,” the “Chicken Dance,” and other similar dances. This is often one of the highlights of our annual retreat, but this year it was somewhat muted by the absence of my oldest child.

Missing from this year’s retreat — and the person always responsible for the music — was Scott. Because he is a professional deejay, he carries all the party music, current hits, and rock n’ roll oldies with him. This year a CD substituted for him because he was hospitalized the day before the retreat for kidney stones, and to complete the story here, he went in for lithotripsy surgery (using sound waves) to have the final kidney stone found by X-rays, blasted apart before it caused another problem. Because of the surgery, lack of sleep, inadequate food, and no caffeine, he was exhausted; thus he, his wife, and their two children could not make the trip.

To make the weekend truly an “And Then Some” adventure, my sister, Marge, and her husband, Jim, came to visit from Kanab, Utah. Having been here for other family events the weekend before, they stayed for the retreat, filled in for the loss of Scott and Karen and their family, and seemed like quite a natural and comfortable addition.

On Saturday morning, when we take our annual hike, it was raining, so we filled in with a variety of games and crafts. Because Scott and Karen normally take charge of the crafts and were not going to be present, parents filled in by purchasing a number of “filler” craft activities which all seven grandchildren enjoyed. Marge and the other parents all helped the kids with the crafts. In addition, we made popcorn, had snacks, then enjoyed a terrific lunch of sandwiches we all constructed and corn chowder. We even set up the “Snake Game” outside, and some members of the group went to the camp headquarters to reserve the cabin for the first week of October in 2008. Some stayed at the cabin and continued work on the puzzle.

This cabin, River Road 2, overlooks the Mohican River just off Route 3, about 1 ½ miles south of Loudenville, Ohio. Although expensive, the cabin sleeps 14, is fully furnished, has 4 full baths, and has a full-sized porch along the back which overlooks the river. The interior is finished in natural, knotty-pine, has 3 comfortable couches in the living room, a large-screen television, and a small gas fireplace that helps heat the front room. Because we bring all our food for Friday afternoon, all day Saturday, and Sunday morning, we make full use of all the kitchen appliances.

On this Saturday (November 10, 2007), a rare occurrence took place — making it, once again, a weekend And Then Some. The University of Michigan lost to Wisconsin for the primary noon, college football game, followed by the primary 3:30 p.m. game in which Ohio State lost to Illinois. Neither team had lost a Big Ten game this season prior to these two games. This was the first time since 1959 that both teams lost their football games the week prior to their final clash. These two games occupied our afternoon, and with people in the family supporting each team, there was true equity in our feelings about the results. Some, too, chose to work on the puzzle.

During the games, the three eldest grandchildren (Madison, 11, Mckenzie, 10, and Morgan, 9) prepared formal invitations for all the adults to an evening concert by them, and within the invitations were tickets. Prior to the concert, everyone’s ticket was formally collected after which Mckenzie welcomed everyone to a concert of music from “Highschool Musical.” For much of the morning and during the football games, the three girls spent their time in their bedroom rehearsing the songs and choreography. They brought to the retreat their own CD-player, and while the music from the show played lightly in the background to help guide their activity, they sang all the words precisely, danced each number with grace and aplomb, and even involved the younger grandchildren on their “stage” at one point in their 40-minute production.

Following the musical, a huge meal of ham, cheesy potatoes, green beans, and a Caesar salad, followed by a game of spoons, and a game of children’s “Charades,” the kids had baths and went to bed, and the adults watched Will Smith in the movie “The Pursuit of Happiness.”

On Sunday morning the skies were still gray, but we began our walk from the Covered Bridge to Lyons Falls at 9:45 a.m. One way, the walk took 45-minutes and was a walk And Then Some — it rained. It was the first rain we had on one of our walks in over 10 years. We returned to the cabin by 11:30 a.m., dried off, cleaned up, and left at 11:50 a.m. for the Sojourner Restaurant in downtown Loudenville. All 14 people were seated around a table in their main dining area, and we enjoyed delicious food including crab cakes, beef stroganoff, and the most wonderful chicken pot pies served in fresh bread bowls. The desserts, too, were to die for, and we promised our waitress, Carolyn, that we would be returning next year. It was a Sunday lunch, And Then Some.

Because we take the retreat annually, one might wonder how one weekend could surpass all the others in And Then Some experiences? This one truly did. Getting into the cabin early, our son’s surgery, the inclusion of my sister and her husband, the two football games, a wonderful musical production, the hike in the rain, completing the puzzle, and an outstanding lunch at the Sojourner, combined to make this a weekend with the grandkids And Then Some.

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Thursday, November 15, 2007

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And Then Some Saturday Essay - November 17, 2007

A weekend with the grandkids And Then Some

by Richard L. Weaver II

Excerpt:
Because we take the retreat annually, one might wonder how one weekend could surpass all the others in And Then Some experiences? This one truly did. Getting into the cabin early, our son's Lithotripsy surgery, the inclusion of my sister and her husband (from Utah), the University of Michigan and Ohio State University football games, a wonderful musical production by our three oldest grandchildren, a hike in the rain, completing a 500-piece puzzle, and an outstanding lunch at the Sojourner Restaurant in downtown Loudenville, combined to make this a weekend with the grandkids And Then Some.


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Friday, November 9, 2007

Michigan versus Ohio State: Just another football game? It’s a game And Then Some!

by Richard L. Weaver II

In the sports section of The (Toledo) Blade, under the title “College Football,” the headline read, “For the 65th time, OSU or UM will be Big Ten champ.” Ever since 1952 — for 55 years — I have come under the spell of this rivalry. And now, with just a week left in the season, it’s the Big Two and little else.

When my wife and I attended the University of Michigan their primary rival was Michigan State. It was Bo Schembechler’s presence at Michigan, beginning in 1969, that helped ignite the Ohio State-Michigan rivalry. You have to remember that Schembechler was as much Ohio as Michigan. Born in Barberton, Ohio, he earned a master’s degree in 1952 at Ohio State and served as a graduate assistant football coach there under Woody Hayes. It was Bo Schembechler who elevated OSU to the status of primary rival of the UofM and he who raised the Hayes-Schembecler rivalry to a level that would allow Schembechler’s victories over that coach down south the kind of notoriety he desired. Bo would be defeating his teacher and mentor.

Both my wife and I grew up knowing about and appreciating college football but not just any college football: Big Ten college football. We found out how unique such an appreciation is while traveling in Europe. The program guide on our Great Rivers of Europe cruise, Martin Payrhuber, an Austrian, told us that people in Europe have no understanding of our fascination with young 18-19 year-old kids running around a field with no professional training, without being paid, and with no professional contracts. He said he understands it because he was a teaching assistant at the University of Minnesota for three terms and attended a Gophers game in their covered arena, but others in Europe (and Australia as well, I might add) just don’t get it.

My wife’s and my interest in Big Ten football run far deeper than Payrhuber’s both having fathers who were University of Michigan professors, both possessing degrees from there, and both having brothers or sisters with degrees from there as well. We not only grew up in homes where Saturday football was a standard fixture, where families were caught up in the importance of wins and losses, but where the display of emotion was not just accepted but expected. Such examples create codes of behavior—habits deeply etched on the psyche, expectations lodged in the brain’s synapses, and, physiologically, a color of blood about which Michigan fans are embarrassed over at least once a year.

The year 2006 revealed a glimpse of the depth of our concern, because it was different from any other. You might say, how can any single year be that much different from nearly sixty years of games we have witnessed? Ohio State and Michigan had actually met 102 times before the stars aligned in such a manner that they found themselves ranked No. 1 and No. 2 in the country—not just in the Big Ten. That might be sufficient had not that fact coincided with the death of Bo Schembechler the Friday night before the game, giving “the game” an almost surreal amount of hype — elevating it to what must be considered mythical proportions.

In the week leading up to “the game” the overriding questions were, would it live up to expectations, and should the teams meet again for the national championship? Short answers could easily be: “Great game,” and “Been there; done that.” As much as we hoped that Michigan would storm into Columbus and take a berth in the Bowl Championship Series title game just because Lloyd Carr deserved it, the problem was simply that in sports, happy endings cannot be scripted; they have to be earned.

My wife and I watched the game with 27 others. There was an overabundance of food, and as a metaphor for the game itself, there was more than enough for everyone — food to satisfy any taste. Our group was separated into two areas. When one team would score, a portion of those in one room would storm into the other loudly cheering and shouting, and when the score went the other way, those from the already stormed room would just as vehemently romp into the other one hollering and rejoicing — like schoolchildren playing one-upmanship. With a final score of 42-39, there were many opportunities for rabble rousing. (OSU won.)

The game, just as our spread of delicious food, had all the trimmings of a classic. There were the sterling performances from two Heisman Trophy candidates, a key penalty (when a UofM linebacker, Shawn Crable, chased a scrambling Troy Smith and knocked him out of bounds with a helmet-to-helmet hit in front of the Buckeye bench) that swung momentum late, and an unknown player (Chris Wells, a freshman, scampering for a 52-yard touchdown in the first half ) rising to steal the show.

The No. 1 quarterback, OSUs Troy Smith, a senior, showed enough talent and ability against stellar competition to win the Heisman Trophy. He was the first quarterback to beat Michigan three times since 1936. Smith, too, was involved in three turnovers in the second half that allowed the Wolverines to keep the score close. Mike Hart, a junior, finished the game with 23 carries for 142 yards and 3 touchdowns and, as a result, could not be counted out in the race for the Heisman. Along with Smith, the two teams proved once again that they had a rivalry for the ages.

The pre-game hype was unbelievable. There was talk, for example, that Buckeyes-Wolverines were college football’s Armageddon. It was touted, too, as the latest incarnation of the “Game of the Century” — words, of course, that happily assuage a Big Ten college football fan’s inner sense of well being yet pump adrenaline into an already-stimulated physiology.

When the BCS rankings were issued on Sunday evening following the game, OSU was ranked first and Michigan second. Because of other games by other teams there was no OSU-Michigan rematch.

In retrospect, there was the build up, the thrill of “the game,” the joy of being with friends, the aroma of food (an in-door tailgating experience), the ambiance of watching college football on five or six television sets, but, in the end, it was being healthy, happy, and free to appreciate it all. Too bad at least one of those TV sets couldn’t have broadcast a Michigan victory in 2006.

For all the 2006 hype, we’re here again in 2007. No, there is no national championship at stake — at least not for Michigan with an opening day loss to Appalachian State followed by a second loss to Oregon — but when they meet in Ann Arbor November 17, one champion will walk off that field. The Buckeyes have won 31, the Wolverines 42; some they have shared. For Michigan in 2007, the Big Ten title is the primary remaining goal, a title they have not won since 2004 when they shared it with Iowa. So the hype continues, the adrenaline pumps, and the expectations rise. Just another football game? Not a chance.

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Thursday, November 8, 2007

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The BarnJam/Official Release party for the book, And Then Some: Essays to Entertain, Motivate, and Inspire - Book I, was a smashing success. I want to thank all of those who purchased an autographed copy of the book and all of those, too, who just stopped by the signing desk to talk. Also, I want to thank everyone who brought food or contributed to the set-up for the event. It was truly an outstanding BarnJam. Thanks to everyone for helping to make this one the best ever!

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Because of family commitments, the Saturday Essay on the upcoming Michigan vs. Ohio State football game will be posted on Friday, November 9th.

And Then Some Saturday Essay - November 09, 2007
Michigan versus Ohio State: Just another football game? It’s a game And Then Some!
by Richard L. Weaver II

Excerpt:
In retrospect, there was the build up, the thrill of “the game,” the joy of being with friends, the aroma of food (an in-door tailgating experience), the ambiance of watching college football on five or six television sets, but, in the end, it was being healthy, happy, and free to appreciate it all. Too bad at least one of those TV sets couldn’t have broadcast a Michigan victory in 2006.


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Saturday, November 3, 2007

Travel While You’re Young

And Then Some Saturday Essay
by Richard L. Weaver II

We have a number of stories that make it clear why people should travel before they get too old to do so. In one case, a woman was traveling with her physically challenged mother because just since planning their “trip of a lifetime,” the woman’s father died, so she was filling in and giving her mother the trip she and her husband had planned.

My wife and I traveled with her father and mother. Her mother has difficulty walking, so we supplied a wheelchair on a cruise to the Panama Canal, and we served as helpers throughout the cruise. It was their last one as they were in their late 80s; however, without our help, they would not have been able to do it. On that cruise, they did not leave the ship.

On our Mediterranean cruise, a couple of our excursions were clearly marked “strenuous,” however, some older, physically challenged people signed up anyway. There were times when their condition held up the rest of the group, and in several instances, they could not go where the group went. Few foreign, tourist, venues are handicap accessible — and that includes bathrooms. In one instance, when the excursion ended, one physically challenged person in the front seat of the bus took the microphone from the tour guide and thanked those on the bus for their assistance at every venue visited on the tour. It was a nice gesture, of course, and people appreciated his comments, but the word “strenuous” should have led him to select another less rigorous tour.

During our two-week Mediterranean cruise there were a number of instances that underscored the suggestion: travel while you’re young.

At a 5-star hotel in Venice, the elevators were being repaired when our busload of 40 people arrived. We were responsible for transporting our carry-on bags to the fifth floor. There weren’t even enough porters to handle the influx of visitors. The hotel workers brought up our heavier, checked bags, but for a number of trips out of the hotel, we had to use the stairs.

When we had to leave this hotel in Venice, I checked specifically with the concierge service to find out who was responsible for getting our checked bags to the lobby. Because our cruise line had booked the hotel as well as our transportation to the airport, we were the responsible party. Those who cruised with us and were taking the same airport bus all lugged their bags down to the lobby, a feat that challenged us all. And none of us, fortunately, was physically challenged or too old to take on this unexpected occurrence.

On this cruise there was another instance that underscored the suggestion, travel while you’re young. Our cruise-ship company, claiming no responsibility for damaged or lost luggage, broke one wheel off my large, heavy, checked bag. This is easy to understand when you see the way bags are pushed and pulled over the metal thresholds on the ship. Without one wheel the bag is awkward and unwieldy to say the least. And, when you have two carry-on pieces, plus a fanny-pack, and a jacket, handling a handicapped bag as well is tough. Tough, but possible, of course.

There are additional reasons, too, that underscore our suggestion to travel while you’re young. For example, the entire preparation process for traveling can be exhausting. Making certain documents are in order, making certain the proper attire is packed, making sure medications are sufficient and labeled, and making certain travel arrangements are completed and correct are ample enough to test anyone, much less the elderly. These are taxing, time-intensive processes that become easier the more one travels but are, nonetheless, tiring.

Another reason is patience. I may be unusual, but my patience has become inversely proportional to my age. As I grow older, my patience decreases. Where does this reveal itself? Primarily in my tolerance for incompetence. After a cruise to the Bahamas from New York City, we returned to discover another large ship was unloading passengers at the same dock as our own. Upon picking up our car and driving down the ramp to the terminal to collect waiting family members, an attendant directing traffic revealed his incompetence. The family and the luggage was at the curb, and there was ample space to pull over and stop, but the attendant would not let me. Pointing out my family and their luggage made no impression; trying to pull over against his very clear directives to move down to the end of the pick-up area, only angered him more. Family members had to step off the curb into passing traffic and drag their bags for close to a block because of the attendant’s lack of flexibility and — in our mind — incompetence.

Yet another reason that underscores our suggestion to cruise while you’re young is crowds. My wife and I thought that by scheduling our Mediterranean cruise in October, we would avoid the notorious crowds found at attractive tourist sites during the peak cruising season — summer. Wrong. The lines in Florence to get into the Academy to see Michelangelo’s original “David,” were long, and some tour groups were unable to get in. The lines to get into the Sistine Chapel in Rome were long, but they did not match those waiting to get into St. Peter’s Basilica. The crowds at Pompeii just outside of Naples, the Acropolis in Athens, and the 45-min. to 1-hour wait to get up the cable car in Santorini, Greece, would drive some people crazy. There were crowds everywhere we walked in Venice. These were not instances that concerned us because — with the exception of Venice — we were with planned excursions with reservations and guides who knew how to help us avoid many of these crowds. But the crowds were there; they appeared in abundance; and they are worse — horrific — during the peak tourist season.

The suggestion to travel while you’re young may not help you avoid rude behavior, however. We got to the cable car at Santorini early and had staked out a position for a car going down. Suddenly, there were six people who, using their raised elbows to prevent us from entering the car, pushed in front of us, quickly boarded and sat down, then ignored us and the shock on our faces.

Exhaustion is another reason to travel while you’re young. Dramatic, six-hour time changes take their toll; adapting to new beds, new schedules, and different foods is taxing; taking excursions to see more sights and gain more information, puts a strain on the body; and leaving friends, grandchildren, homes, and yards can be trying as well.

Traveling becomes more and more difficult as you get older. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it, it means weighing your options. If you can plan for and arrange to do it when you’re young, there are not only many reasons that support that decision, but the entire process of traveling becomes easier.

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And Then Some Saturday Essay - November 3, 2007
Travel while you’re young
by Richard L. Weaver II


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Exhaustion is another reason to travel while you’re young. Dramatic, six-hour time changes take their toll; adapting to new beds, new schedules, and different foods is taxing; taking excursions to see more sights and gain more information, puts a strain on the body; and leaving friends, grandchildren, homes, and yards can be trying as well.

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